The Wait

"The best things come to those who wait", Julia Quinn wrote at the beginning of one of her Bridgerton Books.

And it got me thinking about patience. I wrote about the Now -attitude toward everything in one of my posts, where people seem to have difficulties choosing things because they want too many things, and at the same time. Life has become like a race against the clock.

There is no waiting anymore. Julia Quinn thinks that waiting is the way of achieving great things in life. And I agree, those who have the characteristics to plan things thoroughly, with time and sleep on it, many many times, achieve comprehensive and detailed plans. And plans like that, tend to flourish more than those that are not made with time.

I am always living in a sort of waiting mode, I don't know why (probably there is a personality disorder name for that too) but I always wait for something. I pondered once if it's because I think that my life is lacking something and therefore I feel the feeling of "when" a lot. But I don't give the feeling any importance because I have watched people who are not able to stop, and I see it as very unhealthy.

I want to be able to wait, and I know that it's also a choice. Sometimes a difficult one, but it can be done.

The only problem is only to know when the right time is then.

"If you want something in your life, you get it," Said one 50+ man who wanted to be young again and took fillers and botox. Maybe not the best example for this, but it stuck in my mind and got me thinking about the right timing.

Because you hear that a lot actually; "We are waiting for the right time to..." I have never asked anyone what kind of Waitlist they have until they plan to take action because I have always thought that would be not polite.

But sometimes I would just like to say: "Just do it!" I wish that someone would have said that to me in the past, just because too much pondering can also take you away quickly to a No, No, No atmosphere.

So, how do you know then, when the Wait is finished?

I don't think there is never a correct time for anything. I think even Julia Quinn might be pondering in her bed at night; "Oh, I should have added that conversation between Anthony and Kate after all!"

Best things might not only come to those who wait but those who accept that nothing is ever perfectly done anyway.